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Brain Healing: 3-Month Check Up

I posted two days ago that we’d be having our Neurological Reorganization (NR) check-up this week. We’ve been doing our tailored program faithfully for a little over three months, and I have some very exciting results to report! I will preface all this by saying that I have been a bit weary, had my doubts about how things were going, and was not fully aware of how much progress we had made until I talked through it all today with my practitioner. This program is not easy — but it is incredibly therapeutic and miraculous in my mind. So here’s a list of some of our improvements with my 11-year-old daughter. I hope you are sitting down…

  • She’s happier than she has been in at least 4 years. This alone is priceless — my sad/angry/depressed/despairing little girl has been replaced by a cheerful, hopeful tween. With this program, I no longer fear for her mental health in her teen and adult years. PRICELESS, I tell you.
  • No seizures (at least that we know of) since November 13th. She had been having brief petit mal seizures about once a week or every two weeks, give or take, since late 2015.
  • Far less oppositional/defiant behavior. She still has her moments, but overall is a much more cooperative person.
  • More affectionate and more confident in expressing herself verbally and asking for what she wants/needs. She was much more withdrawn before we started NR.
  • Better sense of satiety. She still eats a lot, but seems to get full and realize it, whereas before she would just eat non-stop if allowed to.
  • Better impulse control and sense of personal space. She hasn’t run up on and bear hugged any strangers lately, for example.
  • Her vertical and lateral eye tracking has improved — she can read with less difficulty now.
  • Better singing voice. What?? She seemed to be tone deaf for awhile, but all of a sudden I’m hearing her carry a tune much better.

Phenomenal, isn’t it?? And this is all without medication or a special diet — just me working on physical exercises and movements with her for a couple hours a day. Two of my boys do the program with her as well and have also had improvements, but her issues were bigger and she is the reason we sought out NR, so that is why I’m focusing on her.

Although we have noticed some improvement in the areas I mentioned above, we are still expecting further progress in those areas. In addition, there are a few other things we expect NR to address where I haven’t noticed as much progress so far:

  • Very little sensitivity to pain, and as a consequence is too rough with others and lacking compassion.
  • Very little sensitivity to cold or heat. She would’ve gone out in this “bomb cyclone” without a jacket if I let her.
  • Has a slight lisp – can not say “s” sound properly.
  • Still doesn’t hear and/or process auditory information very well – does not enjoy being read to or watching movies with much dialog because she can’t keep up and follow the story at the pace it’s being told.
  • Difficulty following multi-step directions.
  • Difficulty reading and understanding some social cues.
  • Monotone speech.

So we’ve still got some issues, but overall I am extremely encouraged and motivated to continue with NR. Even better, my kids are motivated, too. I may have shared this before, but in case you missed it, I was completely at my wit’s end with my daughter in particular, and pretty much with all my kids and their constant bickering and behavioral issues, before I finally found NR. I’ve been homeschooling them since fall of 2012 and was beginning to think I could not go on. This was our last hope, and it seems to have come just in time!

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New Year, New Adventures

Whew! I am so glad that December is over and a new year has begun. Overall I had a wonderful year, but the last month with all the holidays and birthdays (3 of my 4 kids!) and rushing around from event to event always takes a toll. I try to keep it simple, but… So one of the best parts of 2017 was finding neurological reorganization (NR) and staying consistent with our program since we began. It has not been easy, but it has saved our family in more ways than one. We have our first check-up this week to evaluate how much progress we’ve made and what we may need to tweak. Can’t wait!

With NR being such a high priority and taking up so much time and mental space, I didn’t get much else “accomplished” for the last part of the year, but I had prepared for that. My goal was just to stay consistent with NR and absolute necessities and let all the other chips fall where they may. So going into 2018, I feel healthy and I feel good about the past year, but I’m definitely ready for improvements. We have some exciting new opportunities on the horizon–like, career/lifelong dream-type stuff–that I hope will prove both fun and very fruitful. We also have to buckle down in some areas, like finances.

That said, my personal word for 2018 is DISCIPLINE. I played a game called Vertellis last week, and got a question about what my biggest mistake was for 2017. Although I couldn’t point to any one particular mistake, I did feel that I’ve had an overall lack of discipline this past year (or maybe two…or three?). I’ve had several goals on hold for awhile now. I am a wife and mother, and I find it difficult to put my needs before those of others–which is not a bad thing, it just means I have to be creative and extremely focused on the things I truly, deeply desire for total fulfillment. I don’t have to have a strict deadline, but I do have to keep moving forward and making progress toward my best, most complete self. I call all of this a love adventure.

So, how about you? What’s your word or main focus for the year ahead? How are you feeling at the start of 2018? I’d love to hear from you!

ODD No More?

Time for another update on our progress with neurological reorganization therapy. We are now 16 days in, and I am amazed at how smoothly it’s going. Because of the amount of time it takes to do everything in our program, and the physically demanding nature of some of the activities, I had braced myself for lots of battles and coaxing. I thought I’d have had to come up with a ton of creative games and/or rewards by now, but not so.

Maybe it’s the age of my kids in the program (12, 10, 7) that makes them more compliant, but I don’t think so. I especially expected a lot of resistance from my daughter and younger son. Why? Because for the past several years the two of them have adamantly resisted pretty much everything I’ve ever tried to do or say. I would not have been surprised if a doctor had diagnosed them with ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder), if I had inquired.

But now, not only are they cooperating with what we need to do for this program, but they are actually a lot more cooperative in general! My absolute favorite thing to hear right now is my 7-year-old son simply say, “Okay” in response to my making a request or suggestion. THAT NEVER USED TO HAPPEN…EVER! It’s pure music to my ears. The thought that I really may not have to spend the vast majority of my time left on this earth arguing with him and dealing with his emotional outbursts, or refereeing between all four of my children, is truly a wonderful revelation.

This program may actually work! In fact it IS working already. So exciting. Stay tuned.

 

Healing Our Brains, Day 8

As I’ve mentioned in previous posts, we just started on a neurological reorganization (NR) program with three of our four children. Their ages are 12, 10, and 7, and they all have multiple ADHD-type symptoms and two of them seem to have ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder). I haven’t had them formally diagnosed because I’m not interested in medication, but I read a ton and think I have a pretty good idea of what their issues are. Also, we homeschool, so I am with them all the time.

Eight days into our program and here are my observations:

  1. NR is a big change in lifestyle, and therefore stressful and time-consuming to implement at first.
  2. As difficult as my children typically are, they have not offered much resistance so far to doing the program–I think this is because I have made it our #1 priority and don’t really care what else we get done outside of it at this point.
  3. The patterns (ours are similar to swim strokes and dancer poses on the floor) are the hardest thing for us, but we’ve already made huge progress in how well the kids are doing them. They have a definite improved sense of where their bodies are and can move more symmetrically (if that makes sense).
  4. My older two, especially my daughter, who have been less affectionate and cuddly for the past couple years, are really enjoying the body presses and bear hugs we do as part of the program. I also enjoy these and feel more relaxed after we do them. Also, interspersing them in between the more difficult/tiresome parts of the program helps to diffuse tension and stress.
  5. It really has helped to begin slowly with the program and build up to the number of reps and activities assigned. This is definitely a marathon and not a sprint.

Neurological Reorganization, Week 1

I wanted to share an update on our progress with our neurological reorganization (NR) program. We did our evaluation on 9/28, but we are only three days “officially” into implementing it, and let me say it’s not for the faint of heart! It is much more nurturing than I expected, which is great, but it is still a lot of work. Before we began, I had to buy quite a few supplies in order to make the program work for us. Our condo is small and carpeted, so I had to get a roll of vinyl for the floor for crawling, plus knee pads, a massager, brushes, and an exercise ball. I would not have gone to the expense if I didn’t expect life-changing results, but I know the progress will be slow and I’ll need to be diligent and patient (why does everything good require diligence and patience?!). I’m focusing mainly on my daughter at first, because her behavior issues (too many to name right now) are the most concerning, but I am having two of my three sons do the program with her because it will also benefit them. They all have multiple ADHD-type symptoms but have not been formally diagnosed.

So far the patterns (sequential movements that trigger certain reflexes) are the most challenging and time consuming. I think that once we get those down, the other stuff won’t be as big a deal. I hope. There is also a good deal of crawling required, and that may be difficult to fit into our schedule. But, since we home school, we are able to allocate a good chunk of time to this stuff and we’re making it a priority. I’ll let you know how things are going throughout the process. Hopefully it will help some of you!

What is equality? A Thought from The Count of Monte Cristo

I’m reading classics to discuss with my 12-year-old son as part of our lifelong home-based education (homeschool), and the first book we’ve selected for this school year is The Count of Monte Cristo. As my son’s mentor, I have to model the example of lifelong learning and self-educating. In this case that means not only reading along with him but also writing daily about what we are reading.

For today the nugget that stands out to me from the book is this description, referring to the difference, in one character’s mind, between Napoleon and Robespierre: “The only difference consists in the opposite character of the equality supported by these two men; the one advocates the equality that elevates, the other professes the equality that depresses; the one brings a king within reach of the guillotine, the other elevates the people to a level with the throne.”

Quite a powerful contemplation, especially in thinking about our current political climate in the U.S. Many of us say we want equality, but yet we want our own priorities elevated and dissenting voices depressed. Be honest now. I wonder if we will ever approximate an equality that truly elevates every one of us human beings to our very best selves. What a world that would be. I’m not sure if it’s possible, but I desperately want to believe that it is. I’d love to hear your thoughts, and I’m sure I’ll revisit this topic again in future posts.

Seizures and Sugar: A Simple Lifestyle Change That is Working for Us

Hello friends! I wanted to take a moment to share a simple change we’ve made recently to improve our health, particularly for my daughter, age 10. She has been struggling with occasional petit mal seizures over the past 2 years. They only last 30 seconds to a minute, and she is fine right afterward — thankfully they have not caused any brain damage. I have not wanted to use any medication for her, because according to my research, the cons far outweigh the pros in her case. Instead, I have taken careful notes every time she has had a seizure (typically once every 2-3 weeks, with occasional clusters in the same week), recording when they happened and what she was doing/eating/drinking immediately prior as well as the day/night before. I noticed that every time she had a seizure, she either had very little sleep or had eaten more sugar than usual or a food/drink with artificial dyes or flavors. So naturally, I tried to help her avoid these foods and excessive sugar, which was/is not easy, since she has a serious sweet tooth.

The latest change, which we made two months ago, seems to have been the most successful. She has not had a seizure since we started, and it’s been a relatively easy change: We stopped eating cereal for breakfast. I had been buying various, supposedly healthy, usually organic cereals with “less sugar” thinking they were fine for us — things like peanut butter puffs, cocoa crisps, and granola, often to mix with multi-grain squares or plain O’s. Since I was kind of at my wit’s end, I decided to try replacing all of that with only plain oats or toast (we only buy bread with 3-4 ingredients, no preservatives). The kids can add a little honey or organic raisins or bananas to sweeten the oatmeal, but that’s it. Everyone seems pretty content with this change, and we’re saving money as well.

I realize this is a very specific issue and it may not apply to many of my readers, but I wanted to share in case any of you are having similar struggles, and also to encourage anyone searching for natural, holistic solutions for yourself to continue experimenting. Try one small change at a time and pay attention to the results. Take charge of your health and don’t accept someone else’s prescription (medical or otherwise) if you’re not comfortable with it. I’m not anti-medication in every case, but I do believe we are generally over-medicated as a society, and we need to be extra cautious especially when it comes to our children. I’ll continue to share our progress on this as well as other positive lifestyle changes we make. (While I’m on that topic, if anyone has a fool-proof method for making yourself drink 60+ oz. of water every day, please share in the comments!)

 

 

Neurological Reorganization… Life Changing!

59684_1524221838850_7579784_nI have a feeling I’m going to be blogging on this topic A LOT this year. I am totally fascinated by this field and am about to begin a program with my daughter and possibly my two older sons as well. In a nutshell, neurological reorganization is a way of treating a whole host of learning and behavior disorders without medication and with permanent beneficial results. The goal is to identify gaps in development that occurred from birth onward and take advantage of our brain’s neuroplasticity and go back and bridge or eliminate those gaps. At least that’s my understanding so far. I can honestly see  this being the single most important discovery of my life as a mom to date. If you have an hour and fifteen minutes to spare, and even a mild curiosity in what I am talking about, I highly recommend you watch the video below.

 

Back to Education

It’s “Back to School” time for many students around the world, and even in our homeschool we use this time of year to make a fresh start. I’m always excited to start a new “school year” because I love to learn and I love the opportunity to change things up and hopefully inspire my 4 students to become avid readers and lifelong learners. I am currently enthralled with a new book called A Thomas Jefferson Education and all that it means for our homeschool journey.

As the book explains, there are often major differences between modern schooling and classical education–the latter being accomplished through mentors and study of the classics. It asserts that the only true education is self-education and that it comes about when great mentors inspire their students by their example. I am all over that! My favorite thing about homeschooling, which absolutely has its challenges, is how much I get to learn myself, and that my kids automatically absorb so much just by being around me as I struggle and persevere along my own path.

I am far from a perfect parent. The more I learn, the more I realize how much I don’t know. And I can honestly say that I have had a pretty great Catholic school and liberal arts education with some amazing mentors all along the way–I shudder to think what would have been if I had not! I feel I have much to live up to. And I believe that’s what makes me the ideal mentor for my kids. I have to pass on the lessons I have learned and the character I have developed–and I need a lot of time and opportunity to do that. True education can never be forced or rushed. It must be willingly received… patiently and passionately pursued. So that is what I will do, and I’ll trust that my children will follow my example, and eventually surpass it.

Thoughts going into year 6 of home schooling…

We’re about to officially begin our sixth year of home schooling next week, the day after Labor Day. All four of my kids and I will be part of a new co-op that meets once a week. Our home school style has gone from strictly classical to much more eclectic over the years, and this new co-op encourages self-directed learning and unschooling. Kids and parents are invited to submit proposals for classes, group studies, and independent studies with mentors. I joined the programming committee so I get to help decide which classes/studies are held when, for how long, and with what facilitators or teachers. There have been so many creative and interesting proposals submitted already–everything from building Leprechaun traps to Entomology to Coding to Philosophy to Claymation. I’m completely confident that we will enjoy many rich learning experiences together as we connect with this new community.

That’s a nice segue into my latest meditations on why I am home schooling and what my priorities are: the #1 answer to both is community, which is just another name for extended family. I’m reading a great book called A Thomas Jefferson Education and it brings up some excellent points about socialization that remind me why I started on this whole journey in the first place. Unlike most people, who worry about socialization when they think of home schooling (which is worth noting and pondering – why do they immediately think of socializing and never worry about academics when it comes to schooling?), I was actually very impressed with the social skills and overall character and poise of the home schooled children I had known prior to making the decision to home school. I noticed that these children seemed much more articulate and comfortable communicating and interacting with all ages than their peers in public and private schools. They had a strong sense of self, close relationships with their family members, and were less vulnerable to peer pressure.

When I then had my own children and it was time to send my first born off to Kindergarten, I did so with some serious reservations, even though we were in a “very good” school district. It was a full day program, and I worried it would be too big of an adjustment for him. Still, I was hopeful that all would go well and my child would thrive, and he did, mostly. He had a truly wonderful, loving, and capable teacher who gave him an excellent start, socially and academically. He did have a lot of energy to burn once the school day was over, and the homework assignments seemed pretty robust for such a young child, but we managed, and all was well.

Then came first grade, and things began to decline gradually throughout the year. My happy, extremely confident and creative boy began to doubt himself, just a little. He started to think school was “boring” and he just HAD to have the latest, coolest toys that his classmates loved to play with (even though, he admitted, he didn’t think they were really that cool). He would come home from a full day with sometimes 15 minutes of recess or less, and turn into Taz from Looney Tunes, bouncing off the walls and spitting gibberish. His teacher said he took too long on classroom assignments. That was her only feedback about him when we met for parent-teacher conferences. She didn’t love him — he was just another kid in her class. And that was all it took for me to be convinced: I needed to at least try to home school. I didn’t want my child to learn how to sit in a classroom all day and hurry to finish his assignments “on time” regardless of whether he had learned anything. I didn’t want him to learn how to fit in with “the cool kids”, who were all his age and lived in the same small town. I didn’t see what any of this had to do with a good education — and even though I loved my traditional Catholic school education growing up — I was over it in a heartbeat.

I hope that none of this comes across as judgmental or condemning. I know that there are some really great schools out there, and I would never presume to tell another parent what educational choices they should make for their child/ren. I am simply sharing my experiences and my reasons for home schooling my own kids, for consideration by myself and anyone else interested.

I am doing my best to ensure that my kids know how to interact and engage with people of all ages and backgrounds.

I am trying to teach them the discipline of working out their differences with each other productively (all strong personalities together all day long often equals fireworks) and then how to apply those same principles and techniques to be able to get along with other challenging personalities and situations they come across.

I want them to know themselves — what they genuinely love to do and learn about — and be confident enough to lead by example in the communities and interest areas that are important to them.

I want them to be free to explore and open to learn, but not waste time trying to bend and twist into anything that doesn’t resonate for them.

I want them to be fully connected, which for me right now means that I need to be fully connected to myself and my own progress, as well as to how each of them are growing and developing, so that I can lead the way.

I’m sure there will come a day when I entrust that responsibility to someone else or to my kids themselves, but for now it needs to be me. I admit, I’m a little weary and a little leery at this point. But mostly I’m excited. We are finding our groove. We are doing the heavy lifting, and it’s starting to get lighter. We are forging our path, and some will follow. Others will be inspired to forge their own. Still others will think we’re wacko, and that’s okay. As I frequently tell my kids, “Do what you think is right, and do the best you can, and don’t worry about what anyone else is doing.”